Tuesday, September 05, 2006
Dear Abby- this mornings topic.
Sometimes I see someone trying to handle some very hard problems and I have two feelings come to mind-- first is wishing I had the power to remove those problems, next is to thank God I am not going thru what they are. Ever feel that way?
Here is the Dear Abby one that got my mind thinking this morning:
DEAR ABBY: I recently learned a lesson about not judging a book by its cover. A young man and his divorced mother moved into our quiet neighborhood of mostly retirees and young couples who have not yet started families. When we first laid eyes on the young man, we saw a guy with shoulder-length hair dressed all in black -- complete with black fingernail polish and black eyeliner. Everyone thought the worst: "Oh, no! A heathen devil-worshipper!" A few months later, he presented himself in ragged jeans, a flannel shirt, his head completely shaved. Again we thought the worst: "He's turned into one of those neo-Nazi skinheads!" I later learned from his mother that her son is a sociology major at a university about 200 miles from here. (He had to evacuate during Hurricane Katrina as a large portion of the campus was destroyed.) The black attire we first saw was for a costume party he was attending that evening. He grows his hair long to donate to Locks of Love, which uses it to make wigs for cancer patients who have lost their hair during chemo, hence the shaved head. He spends his summers working with groups going to underprivileged countries to teach the children to read and write. He also goes with Doctors Without Borders to help inoculate people who have never had the basic childhood vaccinations against rubella, tetanus, etc. I feel completely ashamed of myself for forming such an opinion about this wonderful young person simply from his appearance at a distance. I have since gotten to know him during his weekend visits home to see his mother and have discovered what an intelligent, compassionate, giving individual he is, and I am honored to have him as a neighbor. Please warn your readers not to make the same mistake I and the rest of my neighbors made in judging a worthwhile young man by his appearance at first glance. -- ASHAMED IN BRANSON, MO.
Just goes to show how gossup can be incorrect and can also hurt others. Do not judge, lest we be judged ourself. Another saying I was raised with.
Just received some bad news. My older sister`s husband was just admitted into the hospital near where they live and the outcome isn`t good. Please say a prayer for him, my sister and their family. They live over 3 miles drive from me, so I can`t get there for her the way I wish I could. He is a wonderful brother-in-law. My daughter was hoping he would be able to walk her down the isle next spring in her Dad`s place. That shows what a great person he is.
Thanks everyone. Nothing can help except hopefully the power of prayer.
How true, we think someone is "bad" and they have the soul of an angel and we think someone is good and they're living a double-life.
Your kids all sound awesome...hmm, any single sons there? Did I just type that out loud? :) Just kidding. Have a great day. :)
You are so right about double lives. They were not what I would have chosen for them, but as the old saying goes "Love is blind" surely came true this time. One is getting re-married in the spring to a wonderful lad. Have known him for over 5 years and he is the type I would want for her. I prayed I was wrong before and now I am praying I am right this time.
yes, two sons still free with their kids all graduated. Haahaa. thanks for the smile, I really needed one.
Oh dot, you said it so well about wanting to jump in to remove pain & hurts but accepting that our children are adults and therefore can make thier own decisions. The only time we can help is if asked for it.